FEAR

afraid

“You are afraid to die, and you’re afraid to live. What a way to exist.” – Neale Donald Walsch

Afraid. To live. To die. To get hurt. To hurt others. Afraid. Of failure. Of success. Of getting stuck somewhere in between. Afraid of doing nothing at all, afraid of overdoing it. Afraid of yourself, afraid of others. Rationalizing. Being practical. Over-intellectualizing. Holding back. Waiting for the right moment and the right place.

Finding excuses. Blaming yourself. Blaming others. Telling yourself that you’ve got enough time. Continue reading

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Masks

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Nathaniel Hawthorne once wrote, “No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be the true.”

We all act differently around certain people, because we want to impress them, or maybe because we simply don’t want to dissapoint them. And sometimes, indeed, we can’t figure out who we really are.

I once wrote that our freedom is limited only by what we believe to be the perception others have about us. If we’re afraid the world won’t like us for who we really are, then we try our best to “behave.” Continue reading

A Lesson: On Depression, Emotional Resilience, and Heartbreaks

“Heard joke once: Man goes to doctor. Says he’s depressed. Says life seems harsh and cruel. Says he feels all alone in a threatening world where what lies ahead is vague and uncertain. Doctor says, “Treatment is simple. Great clown Pagliacci is in town tonight. Go and see him. That should pick you up.” Man bursts into tears. Says, “But doctor…I am Pagliacci.” ― Alan Moore

You know the saying, “Don’t judge a book by its cover?”

Well, it’s true.

Oftentimes there’s a big difference between what we’re able to decipher about a person, what we see at the surface, and what lies underneath it all. There’s a big difference between appearance and essence.

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We All Want to Change The World

worldIt’s my honest opinion that we all want to leave our mark on this world. Some of us may not recognize this urge, but we all want to change something, to alter things, to create something that will last longer than us. Even if it is a scar. Yes, there are plenty out there who just want to inflict pain, because that’s the only thing they can do. Or the only thing they think they can do. Continue reading

Ambition: Good or Bad?

Defined as “a burning desire to create,” ambition has been considered for a long time as one of the most important ingredients for success.

But is it enough to just want something?

The universe is indifferent. It doesn’t give you what you want. It doesn’t satisfy your obsessions. Thoughts don’t magically materialize.

Effort. Sacrifice. Discipline. Patience.

Words to be tied to “ambition.”

The desire, however burning, has to direct actions. Decisions.

We need to keep the flame burning, but successful people also know that ambition is also going on in spite of failure, pain, or fatigue.

It’s not about how bad you want it. Most people want it just as bad as you do. It’s about how hard you’re willing to work for it. How much time and effort are you willing to put in. Continue reading

Do More, Be More

“Unless a man undertakes more than he possibly can do, he will never do all he can do.”– Henry Drummond

To push oneself to the limit. And beyond. In a way, this is what living a meaningful life is all about. The struggle, the desire to achieve more than seems possible.

Our potential is endless, our capacity for expansion exceeds our imagination.

More. More. More.

Going the extra mile is what this is all about. Going after all your impulses tell you to quit. Going after the chatterbox inside your head tells you to give up. Going after every single cell in your body tells you that it’s time to roll over and die.

This is what life is about. The struggle. The fight. The war we have to wage with ourselves, in our endless pursuit to become better than we were yesterday.

Ambition without hard work is useless.

Talent without hard work is useless.

Love without hard work is useless.

Being alive without working hard is useless.

The Pursuit of Happiness

What is happiness? How can we obtain it? How can we keep it? Why is it so important for us to be happy?

Questions we all asked ourselves at certain points in life. Continue reading