Defeats

0707ashc9 455x600“Somewhere in the world there is a defeat for everyone.”John Steinbeck

To paraphrase another American writer, life breaks us all. Whether we want it to or not. And, yes, some are stronger at the broken places. Some are not.

We are defeated simply because there’s a lot more to learn from defeat than from victory. Grief, pain, and anger only serve as lessons.

It’s necessary. For us to evolve, for us to ask ourselves if it’s in our powers to change something.

About ourselves. About the world around us. Or the people in it.

You know the saying that the only true constant in life is change? Well… oftentimes change is painful. We are still terrified by the unknown, by what it represents.Continue reading “Defeats”

Numbers

followersIn April 2012 I decided that it was time. To write. To publish stories. To find an audience. To blog. To engage people.

I didn’t know what was going to happen. Isn’t that what we all have in common? We never know what’s going to happen?

But I knew one thing that made a huge difference. I knew that I wouldn’t give up. No matter what.

I wasn’t easy, but then again, no one ever told me that. I won’t tell you that either.

But was it worth it?

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Yes.

It was all worth it. The time, the effort. The struggles.

If you’re curious to read my thoughts on blogging from January 2014, you can download this great e-book on blogging here.

What people never seem to understand is that success isn’t about never failing. It’s about not quitting. It’s about keeping at it, regardless of the consequences.

Courage often takes the form of perseverance.

It’s as simple and as complicated as that. Luck, talent, all that doesn’t really matter that much. If you want something, and if you try long enough to get it…

This world is big enough for all of us to get what we want, isn’t it?

Life’s not fair

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The truth is that it doesn’t matter what you believe in, because some things will always be out of your control. Living cautiously has nothing to do with the things that happen to you. Or at least that’s how I chose to see life a long time ago.

And I do my best not to regret stuff. Or feel sorry for myself. It doesn’t work all the time.Continue reading “Life’s not fair”

On being invincible

“In the midst of hate, I found there was, within me, an invincible love.
In the midst of tears, I found there was, within me, an invincible smile.
In the midst of chaos, I found there was, within me, an invincible calm.
I realized, through it all, that…
In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer.
And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger – something better, pushing right back.”
Albert Camus

The only way you’re ever going to accomplish something worth mentioning is to rely on your inner strength. True motivation comes from inside. Why some people never give up, no matter what, and why some people never finish a job they’ve started… that’s all about how much they believe in themselves.

The truth is, I can tell you all about my struggles, my problems, and how I chose to face them, how I decided to keep on writing, even when I couldn’t see any reason to keep on doing so. Even when failure was always around the corner. I can write about it, tell you about it, I can tell you that you can do great things only if you set your mind to it, that greatness is achievable, and so on… but the truth is that at the end of the day, if you don’t believe in yourself, nothing will change.Continue reading “On being invincible”

Change

change“We are the prisoners of our own ideals. We have to follow a strict pattern, a set of rules and laws, and play the role society designed for us. We are taught that our choices don’t matter, that at best we are insignificant, and at worst we are invisible, shadowy figures wandering around a desolate landscape filled with rigid concrete boxes and bleak lights shivering in the night. I guess that what I’m really trying to say is that our freedom is limited only by what we believe to be the perception others have about us. ” – Jazz

I’m not an overly ambitious man. I’m not particularly good at most things. I’m rather a pessimist, who happens to have a few moments of idealism. I think I’m too small to change the world around me, and yet this doesn’t stop me from trying.

And I see this kind of thinking all around me. People waiting for someone else to change the world because they feel they’re not strong enough. A lot of people don’t want to make their voices heard, because they fear their voices won’t be enough.

That’s a big, big mistake.Continue reading “Change”