[the process] the obstacle is the (only) way

there is no other way but to use the obstacle

Here I am, four months until I get to celebrate a full decade since I self-published my first novel.

I love writing stories.

It’s what I have always loved to do. And I love it more than anything else I’ve had the pleasure of doing over the years.

Don’t get me wrong. There’s nothing glamorous about having a passion.

I often say passion means to suffer. It does. It truly does. The universe doesn’t suddenly make sense because you know what is the one thing you love doing more than anything else in the world.

In fact, most times it feels like an obstacle.

I love to write, yet I’ve also come up with a rather impressive reasons why I shouldn’t:

  • I am primarily a personal development blogger
  • It takes a lot of time to write something, then try to sell it
  • The niche is overcrowded
  • There aren’t that many people interested in reading fiction

And on and on.

The funny thing is, you only need one reason why something won’t work.

If you start writing down an entire list of reasons, most probably it means that you, somehow, wish it would actually work.

Somehow, deep down, you know that the obstacle is really the way to go.

There’s nothing else to do.

It is the things we smear with realism that usually make us dream in ways that stop us from falling asleep.

That’s the way of the world.

I am a writer. I write stories. It is what I love to do, and I can’t find much joy doing anything else if I can’t write.

And that’s what I am going to do.

I am going to write.

And I’d love it if you could join me on this journey.

I’d love to share my stories with you.

How to Use Your Inner Critic to Your Advantage

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Everyone, no matter their level of success in life, struggles with their inner critic.

It’s just how it is.

Most of my twenties were controlled by the debilitating beliefs that are often the side-effect of a too harsh inner critic. I was often paralyzed by fear. Wrecked by insecurity. I struggled with high-functioning depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem.

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Be Fearless in the Pursuit of Your Dreams

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“Don’t ask for guarantees. And don’t look to be saved in any one thing, person, machine, or library. Do your own bit of saving, and if you drown, at least die knowing you were heading for shore.”

Ray Bradbury

Even though it doesn’t feel like it, we spend most of our lives waiting. We find ourselves at one end of a dark tunnel and we wait for someone or something to take us by the hand and lead us toward the light on the other side.

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Don’t Try. Be

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“Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

Steve Jobs

Charles Bukowski almost didn’t become the writer he had always dreamt of being. He worked in a post-office until his fifties, even though he tried and often failed to earn enough from his writing so he could quit his job.

Abraham Lincoln failed time and time again. He lost his bid for State Legislature when he was 23 years old. Six years later, he lost his bid to become Speaker in the Illinois House of Representatives.

In 1848, at the age of 39, Lincoln failed to become Commissioner of the General Land Office in D.C. Ten years later, he failed to become a U.S. Senator.

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This is How You Conquer The World

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“It seems to me that if you or I must choose between two courses of thought or action, we should remember our dying and try so to live that our death brings no pleasure to the world.” 

John Steinbeck

We are born soft. Not weak, but with a certain sweetness deep inside our souls. As kids, we feel invincible in our desire to discover the world, to conquer it, to become who we want to be.

Nothing seems impossible. Nothing is out of reach.

But then we grow up and most often than not, we grow weary of others. We try to be like them, we want them to like us…

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