The One Question You Should Always Ask Yourself Before Pursuing a Goal

Photo by Content Pixie on Unsplash

Goals are essential to our happiness. Working towards a worthy goal ensures that we live a life that is meaningful and fulfilling.

If so, why do we fail at most of our goals? Why do we struggle with motivation?

If our vision of the future is so compelling, if we know why we want it, if we know how to get it, then why do we struggle to do it?

I believe it all comes down to the fact that we never ask ourselves this simple question, a question that perhaps you don’t even want to think about, let alone answer.

Continue reading “The One Question You Should Always Ask Yourself Before Pursuing a Goal”

Uneasy Lies The Head That Wears a Crown


“Uneasy lies the head that wears a crown.” — William Shakespeare

We have this strange fascination for the extremely successful among us. We crave stories about Alexander the Great, Caesar, Rockefeller, or Vanderbilt.

But we don’t think that it’s not all fun and games to sacrifice in a myriad different ways on a daily basis in order to reach the top of the food chain. We don’t think of how treacherous the path to the top of the mountain truly is.

Continue reading “Uneasy Lies The Head That Wears a Crown”

You Have the Right to Be Wrong

“If anyone can refute me — show me I’m making a mistake or looking at things from the wrong perspective — I’ll gladly change. It’s the truth I’m after, and the truth never harmed anyone. What harms us is to persist in self-deceit and ignorance.” 

Marcus Aurelius

How often do you change your mind? How often do you change your beliefs? What about your principles? Or your self-image?

How often do you admit that you were wrong?

How often do you force yourself to see things from the opposite of your usual perspective?

It can often feel like a cardinal sin to change one’s mind, to admit being wrong, but the truth is that the inability to change one’s mind is the foundation of a fixed mindset.

Continue reading “You Have the Right to Be Wrong”

20 Paradoxical Life Truths That Are Almost Impossible to Accept

Photo by Victor Garcia on Unsplash

Life’s fun sometimes. Apparently there’s a 1 in 400 trillion chance of you being born.

It makes sense that there are a lot of paradoxical truths in life that seem to be impossible. But if we take the time to think about them, to dive a bit deeper, they make a lot of sense.

Below are 20 truths about life that I have to always keep in mind if I want to make sense of the world around me.

Continue reading “20 Paradoxical Life Truths That Are Almost Impossible to Accept”

[the process] the obstacle is the (only) way

there is no other way but to use the obstacle

Here I am, four months until I get to celebrate a full decade since I self-published my first novel.

I love writing stories.

It’s what I have always loved to do. And I love it more than anything else I’ve had the pleasure of doing over the years.

Don’t get me wrong. There’s nothing glamorous about having a passion.

I often say passion means to suffer. It does. It truly does. The universe doesn’t suddenly make sense because you know what is the one thing you love doing more than anything else in the world.

In fact, most times it feels like an obstacle.

I love to write, yet I’ve also come up with a rather impressive reasons why I shouldn’t:

  • I am primarily a personal development blogger
  • It takes a lot of time to write something, then try to sell it
  • The niche is overcrowded
  • There aren’t that many people interested in reading fiction

And on and on.

The funny thing is, you only need one reason why something won’t work.

If you start writing down an entire list of reasons, most probably it means that you, somehow, wish it would actually work.

Somehow, deep down, you know that the obstacle is really the way to go.

There’s nothing else to do.

It is the things we smear with realism that usually make us dream in ways that stop us from falling asleep.

That’s the way of the world.

I am a writer. I write stories. It is what I love to do, and I can’t find much joy doing anything else if I can’t write.

And that’s what I am going to do.

I am going to write.

And I’d love it if you could join me on this journey.

I’d love to share my stories with you.