On Blogging

As of the moment I am writing this post I have  120,531 followers. Almost five years of daily blogging.

If you expect some how-to guide on blogging, some shortcut, some secret, it’s not going to happen. It’s all hard work. It’s all in the energy and time you invest.

Which is why the number one rule when it comes to blogging is passion. As in, write about what you want, as long as it’s something that fascinates you. It can be art, it can be photography, travel, food, make-up, relationships, psychology, quantum physics… it doesn’t matter. Why? Because if you feel strongly about something, sure as hell someone else is going to feel the same way. Continue reading

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The fight

strength“You never know how strong you are… until being strong is the only choice you have.” – Cayla Mills

I’m going to tell you something no motivational speaker would ever dare tell you: genuine strength can’t be taught, learned, bought, borrowed, or understood. Genuine strength, defined as the ambition, courage, and stamina to do whatever you want to do most in this world comes from the realization that you are the only one who’s going to pay the price for success.

That is it.

You really don’t need someone to keep you motivated, someone to keep an eye on you so you don’t become lazy. There’s no point in doing something if you can’t do it by yourself, for yourself, because you can and want to.

I enjoy watching those motivational videos on Youtube, or reading about this or that person who reached a breaking point in their life. I like to read about struggles that makes us human. But it never really helped me achieve anything.

The truth is, you have to do this by yourself. The moment you can’t find any more excuses, the moment you can’t blame anyone else for your mistakes, that’s when you can either give up or try again. You can run and hide, or simply try to take over the world.

It’s really simple. Continue reading

Monday Fiction: Beautiful Ghosts

They say you’ll live forever if a writer falls in love with you.

Tell this to the right girl and she’s yours. Of course, it might take a while to find her, and it obviously helps if you’re somewhat famous.

But I don’t tell them that I’d only write about them if they’d break my heart. Because that’s how I put the pieces back together. I don’t tell them that I stopped loving a long time ago.

It’s not that I don’t want to, I simply can’t. That bizarre mechanism that allows people to feel as if someone else is a part of who they are, as if they’ve found something they’ve always felt was missing… well, that mechanism’s broken for me.

And, sadly, I don’t know how to fix it, so I go into bookstores and find pretty and quiet girls and show them my books, all nicely lined up on bookshelves. Some of them have read me, some haven’t. Some of them are true fans, and they can’t wait to tell me how much they love my stuff. They tell me jokes, they want to show me how smart they are. They ask questions and expect me to answer. When I ask them questions, they smile and spend a few moments rummaging through their minds for the right answer. Continue reading

When you feel there’s no hope, fight on. When you feel you’ve got nothing left, fight on. When you feel that life’s not fair, that all you want to do is crawl under your blanket and cry, fight on. Clench your teeth, fight the pain, fight the tears, the anger, the bitter remorse, because the only true thing about life is that it goes on. It keeps moving forward, impervious to your actions or pleas for help. Never give up, never retreat, always fight back. That’s action and reaction. Fight back. Don’t run away, don’t let yourself be paralyzed by fear. Fight. Continue reading

These dreams…

“Where do they go, these dreams of mine? Do they live? Do they die? Do they fall? Do they fly?”

“Most people will spend their lives doing jobs that they don’t particularly enjoy, and will eventually save up enough money to stop doing those jobs just in time to start dying instead. Don’t be one of those people. There’s a difference between living, and just surviving. Do something that you love, and find someone to love who loves that you love what you do.
It really is that simple.
And that hard.”John Connolly

I believe that most of us crave adventure. We want our lives to make us feel. We crave the bittersweet excitement brought on by uncertainty.

But we also want safety. And comfort. Just enough.

We are torn between “more” and “just enough.”
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Mountaintops and stuff

There’s this idea that motivation is a finite resource. That you are only ambitious enough to fight for the things you genuinely desire and need; those dreams that keep you from falling asleep at night.

The thing is, we have this idea that there’s some sort of reward waiting for us on the other side of any struggle.

A bodybuilder friend of mine once told me that when he first started lifting weights he thought that if you worked out for a particular period of time and got to look in a certain way, then you could have that body forever, even if you stopped working out. Continue reading

Pain

“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.” –  Laurell K. Hamilton

How much pain can a man endure? How much suffering? How much hunger? How much loneliness? How many disappointments, setbacks, disasters, heartbreaks?

How many tears a man can shed before he can’t cry anymore?

How many times he has to be told no until he believes it?

And the answer is simple. Continue reading