Why do people give up?

 

Everybody wants to eat, but no one is willing to hunt.

Everybody wants to be fit and strong, but no one wants to lift heavy weights. If only they could pay someone else to do their pushups for them…

People give up for a number of reasons. The following list contains 16 of the most common of them.

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Obstacles

“Don’t let life discourage you; everyone who got where they are had to begin where they were.” — Richard L. Evans

There comes a time when a certain number of obstacles get in the way of you getting what you want.

Setbacks.

Failures.

Disappointments.

What you thought would happen, didn’t. Your expectations turned out to be misguided.

What do you do then?

Well, the answer is simple. Rest, if you have to. Don’t quit, but take a short break to think things through. What happened, who did what, and what has to be done to improve the situation.

Don’t spend too much time though. You’ve got to keep moving forward, no matter what. Continue reading

What you don’t know about success

Success is a word gets thrown around a lot. It’s become meaningless. We all want it and the definition of success is different for everyone.

Some of us want a beautiful family life. Some of us want a successful business. Some of us want lots of money so we can exchange it for goods and services.

To make matters worse, society has developed a set of tools to help you become comfortable. To have what you want, when you want it, which is right here, right now.

We have lost track of who we are supposed to be. Life and success are harsh. Unless you are will to fight like hell for what you want, then you’ll never be successful.

Consider this your wake up call!

It’s time to stop fantasizing and do what you have to do to get what you want.

Whatever your definition of success is, you’ll need to have the following:

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Warning: your belief in the so-called “work-life balance” is ruining your life

Work-life balance. Financial freedom. Self-help. Motivation. Lifestyle advice.

The “ten minutes” this or that. The “five steps to” this or that. The easy way. The shortcut you never knew needed.

Building a life you’re proud of.

Somehow managing to come up with more than twenty four hours in a day, so you get to do all the things you want to do. Yay!

There are an awful lot of gurus out there telling you that life can be easy, if only… Continue reading

What does it mean to ACTUALLY love yourself?

Back during the Dark Ages one was required to take into consideration what others thought of them. Individuality, personal space, all of them did not matter that much. You were required to defend your honor. What others said about you, you either had to accept as truth, or fight to prove it as a lie.

Quite different from the way we see ourselves today, right?

Kids have their own rooms, their own private spaces. They are told to love themselves, to not care what others think of them.

Someone else’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.

Something like that.

But what if they’re right?

What if it’s best to live in a social environment and try to understand why others might not like you? Why others might say bad things about you… Continue reading

You can have anything you want

People always get what they want. But there is a price for everything. Failures are either those who do not know what they want or are not prepared to pay the price asked them. The price varies from individual to individual. Some get things at bargain-sale prices, others only at famine prices. But it is no use grumbling. Whatever price you are asked, you must pay. – W.H. Auden

Life’s simple. We humans tend to make it seem like such a complicated process.

We want what we want, and we must fight to get it.

That is all.

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What do you do when all hope is lost?

“Many people seem to think it foolish, even superstitious, to believe that the world could still change for the better. And it is true that in winter it is sometimes so bitingly cold that one is tempted to say, ‘What do I care if there is a summer; its warmth is no help to me now.’ Yes, evil often seems to surpass good. But then, in spite of us, and without our permission, there comes at last an end to the bitter frosts. One morning the wind turns, and there is a thaw. And so I must still have hope.” – Vincent van Gogh

There was a time in life when I had lost all hope. For something so essential to us humans, hope seems to be endless. It is renewed again and again.

How did I lose it all?

It happened fast. Or so it seemed. It happened in such a way that, as everything around me went crumbling down, all I could do was stare blankly. Like watching TV. Like being the observer of your own life. Like being in a car with an unknown driver taking you to a place you never even knew existed.

I had failed in love, in business, and in life in general. I had no friends, no money, and struggled with debilitating health issues. I thought this was the beginning of the end. And I just didn’t feel like going on. Continue reading