When You Feel like Giving Up

If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, again. Then quit. There’s no use being a damn fool about it.”W.C.Fields

Perseverance is not an innate ability. Resilience, defined as promising yourself to never give up, is developed by giving up over and over again and wishing that you hadn’t.

As they say, experience is such a cruel teacher.

But you learn. Oh, my God, do you learn.

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Breathing Dreams Like Air

A dreamer. That’s what I’ve always been. I’ve always wanted things that one does not usually know how to find, things that require one to get truly lost in order to find.

I have always wanted to be able to dream my life into existence. That’s why I am a writer, why I invent worlds and characters, and write about all that I wish to be but can’t.

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Dare to Fail


They say luck is something that happens to other people.

They also say that you’re not a failure until you blame someone else. Or something else.

I have never considered myself to be particularly talented. I struggle a lot. I have a lot of trouble writing, and it’s one thing I have been doing for a long, long time. All else feels almost impossible. It makes me feel sad, it makes me feel angry. Continue reading

Warning: Your Belief in The So-Called “Work-Life Balance” Is Actually Ruining Your Life

Work-life balance. Financial freedom. Self-help. Motivation. Lifestyle advice.

The “ten minutes” this or that. The “five steps to” this or that. The easy way. The shortcut you never knew needed.

Building a life you’re proud of.

Somehow managing to come up with more than twenty four hours in a day, so you get to do all the things you want to do. Yay!

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He Who Reigns Within Himself

“One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself.” – Leonardo daVinci

There are two kinds of people in this world: those who do things when they feel like doing them, and those who do things until they feel like doing them. The first kind, they let their emotions rule them, they do and say what they feel, when they feel. The second kind, they rely on self-discipline, rely on principles, rules, and the conviction that moods and feelings are unreliable and temporary and easily manipulated. Continue reading

I Am Full of Wounds and Still Standing on My Feet

People often think of success as a singular moment. It’s not.

Think of it this way. One day you get sick and tired of always being sick and tired by the way you look. You can’t stand seeing yourself in the mirror, so you decide it’s time to go to the gym.

You work out for a day or two. What happens after that? Do you see any results? Do the people around you?

If nothing changed, are you a failure? What happened?

Do a lot of people give up because after one, two, twenty workouts, there’s still no visible change? There’s no one to acknowledge their work? What if they quit, and then start over, and then quit again, and then start again… and one day, they just keep going?

If they keep working out, going to the gym, day in and day out, and then, one day, they look in the mirror and they go like, “Wow.” And all their friends and family congratulate them on what they achieved.

Is that the moment when they became successful? Or did everything before that moment lead to the moment when everyone else acknowledged their success? Continue reading

It’s Not Possible

impossibleNot long ago people used to think that it just wasn’t physically possible for a man to run a mile in under four minutes. Of course, Roger Bannister proved them wrong in 1954. Nowadays, to run a mile in under four minutes is not that great of an accomplishment.

I once wrote that there isn’t a single person on this world who, when faced with the impossible, can’t recognize it, but at the same time, there isn’t a single person on this planet who truly accepts it.

But the way we react to the impossible ultimately depends on how much we want to conquer it. We might accept the challenge or we might give up without a fight. You see, when we feel we don’t have enough time to complete a certain task, we tell ourselves it’s impossible. If something hasn’t been done before, it’s impossible. We’ve got a million rules and laws that tell us how this world works. And we label what we don’t understand as being “impossible.”

It just can’t be done.

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