“Whether you succeed or not is irrelevant, there is no such thing. Making your unknown known is the important thing– and keeping the unknown always beyond you.” – Georgia O’Keefe
Why do I keep writing? Why do successful people keep at it? Why do billionaires don’t retire on tropical islands? Why doesn’t it all end when your dream comes true? Why doesn’t it come a time when there’s nothing left to wish for?
Because, simply put, it’s all a long, long journey. One word at a time, one step at a time, one little goal at a time. It’s all about becoming, not obtaining. Continue reading
“It’s so much darker when a light goes out than it would have been if it had never shone.” – John Steinbeck
They say change is the only true constant in our lives. Defined as the process through which something becomes different. Some of us fight it, others choose to focus their energy on adapting to the new circumstances; to make the most out of whatever it is that has changed.
Change is inevitable.
There’s good and bad in our lives. There’s good and bad in the world around us. How we react to all that is entirely up to us.
But what I really what to write about is the so called “blessing in disguise.”
David Goggins. Possibly the toughest man alive. The only person to complete SEAL training, US Army Ranger School, and Air Force Tactical Air Controller training. He also holds the current record for most pull-ups done in 24 hours.
He once famously ran 100 miles in 24 hours, and he did it by sheer power of will. The metatarsal bones in his feet were broken. There were stress fractures, shin splints, and muscles tearing. He was peeing blood down his leg because he couldn’t make it to a toilet 20 feet from him.
He was on the brink of death, but he kept going nonetheless.
Contrary to popular belief, it is not our bodies that break under high stress, but rather our minds. It is all a mental game.
Yes, pain is inevitable. The avoidance of pain, the desire for comfort, the clinging to one’s comfort zone, all of those cause us pain.
But suffering is optional…
Want to know why?
Read on. Continue reading
One of my favorite opening lines goes like this, “Everything I write was once real life.”
It’s from Max Blecher’s last novel, The Shinning Burrow.
How do you turn real life into art? Into stories? How do you write about all the things you’d never have the courage to say out loud?
“Thirty years ago my older brother, who was ten years old at the time, was trying to get a report written on birds that he’d had three months to write, which was due the next day. We were out at our family cabin in Bolinas, and he was at the kitchen table close to tears, surrounded by binder paper and pencils and unopened books about birds, immobilized by the hugeness of the task ahead. Then my father sat down beside him put his arm around my brother’s shoulder, and said, “Bird by bird, buddy. Just take it bird by bird.” – Anne Lamott
There are some psychologists who believe over-thinkers to have highly specialized brains; their minds are great at solving complex problems. Where most people give up easily enough, they keep thinking and trying to find a solution. They spend more time on a certain task that anyone else.
But over-thinkers often get stuck. Their minds keep trying to fix something that can’t be fixed, no matter what. And this slowly kills them inside.
A solution to overthinking is to think of what’s next to be done. That is, actually, a good way to keep you distracted from most of the miseries of life.
Doing what you can, then the next thing, and the next, is how all great things are built. This is how you get from doing what is easy, to what is difficult, to what is impossible.
I am writing this post one word at a time. And, no matter how hard I or anyone else tries, you can only write something one word at a time. Continue reading
For as long as I can remember I’ve been fascinated by people who are phenomenal at what they do; especially those who are success in more than one area of their life.
After all, my first ever “big dream” was when I was seven or so years old, and I wanted to change my name into Chris Packlem, and become the richest man ever.
Funny how things change over time. Or better said, how we change.
But how do successful people do all that they do?
Over the years I’ve read the books written by/about the highly successful, watched interviews, read their blogs, etc.
And I’ve learned that successful people are not more intelligent, or just lucky, or born into the right family.
But they do certain things differently than other folks. Continue reading
“A man is what he thinks about all day long.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Change your thoughts and you can change your world. A terrible cliche, isn’t?
And yet almost every self-made man will tell you just how important thoughts are. Alongside a lot of self-proclaimed gurus. Continue reading