Non-believer

Do you want everyone to believe in you even though you don’t believe in yourself? Do you want people to support you even though you haven’t done anything to earn that support?

Do you think the world doesn’t notice you for who you are? Do you think the world cares about the way you talk about your dreams and goals? Do you think everyone else doesn’t see you procrastinating instead of being dedicated to your dreams?

Sure, you can whine and moan about it and get some fake sympathy from fake friends who’ll laugh at you behind your back.

But… Continue reading

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Bird by bird or the art of doing what you can with what you have

birds1“Thirty years ago my older brother, who was ten years old at the time, was trying to get a report written on birds that he’d had three months to write, which was due the next day. We were out at our family cabin in Bolinas, and he was at the kitchen table close to tears, surrounded by binder paper and pencils and unopened books about birds, immobilized by the hugeness of the task ahead. Then my father sat down beside him put his arm around my brother’s shoulder, and said, “Bird by bird, buddy. Just take it bird by bird.”Anne Lamott

There are some psychologists who believe over-thinkers to have highly specialized brains; their minds are great at solving complex problems. Where most people give up easily enough, they keep thinking and trying to find a solution. They spend more time on a certain task that anyone else.

But over-thinkers often get stuck. Their minds keep trying to fix something that can’t be fixed, no matter what. And this slowly kills them inside. Continue reading

Focus

Focus. The ability to do what has to be done, even when you don’t feel like it.
To do the work.

To enjoy the process.

The ability to drown out the inner critic, to ignore the naysayers.

Focus.

What you focus on, happens. What you expect to see, that’s what will be in front of your eyes.

Life is a mirror.

We are all our own prophets.

Our stories about who we are and what we are capable of influence what we do.

As they say,  there are no hopeless situations, only people who think hopelessly.

Proud, but never satisfied

“Be humble for you are made of earth. Be noble for you are made of stars.”

Serbian Proverb

Proud, but never satisfied. One of those phrases that sound so smart. One of those phrases that get thrown around so much that they have become cliche. It is easy to dismiss such a phrase as nonsense.

But the unarguable truth about cliches is that they’re true. So, so true.

Proud, but never satisfied.

Proud? Why? Continue reading

P.U.S.H.

Be not afraid of greatness. Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and others have greatness thrust upon them. – William Shakespeare

It seems to me that it is some people’s inexorable destiny to become great. But to most folks, greatness is simply about being determined enough.

The only way out of a struggle is to hustle.

There’s no other way. No substitute for hard work. No shortcut.

Simply put, you can’t climb the ladder to success with your hands in your pockets.

There’s no elevator. Continue reading

Warning: your belief in the so-called “work-life balance” is ruining your life

Work-life balance. Financial freedom. Self-help. Motivation. Lifestyle advice.

The “ten minutes” this or that. The “five steps to” this or that. The easy way. The shortcut you never knew needed.

Building a life you’re proud of.

Somehow managing to come up with more than twenty four hours in a day, so you get to do all the things you want to do. Yay!

There are an awful lot of gurus out there telling you that life can be easy, if only… Continue reading

The punch you don’t see coming…

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In boxing, it’s always the punch you don’t see coming that knocks you down. The punch you weren’t expecting, the punch you never thought would hit you. Life is just like that.

It’s the bizarre coincidences we never even dared take into consideration, with an even stranger ramification of consequences. And in the ensuing chaos, we no longer understand what’s going on, and we feel like drowning. Time becomes inconsistent: a second, a minute, an hour, a day… we can no longer tell what is what. Continue reading