Here in Romania we have a pretty strange educational system. And, well, the whole system does nothing to tell you that you are special, that you are capable of greatness. I don’t know if this is a bad thing or not, but I’ve always wanted to believe that people have greatness inside of them, that people are capable of being great, of doing wonderful things.
But they’re constantly being told that they’re just average, that they have to play a small part, that changing the world is a task reserved to other individuals.
It’s always others who get to do all the things we want to do, isn’t it? Continue reading
”It all comes down to the inner game. Changing your life is a change in the inner game.” – Tony Robbins
There are so many external factors that influence our lives that it’s easy to waste our efforts trying to change them according to our desires.
Mastering others is, indeed, power, but having control over oneself, one’s emotions and feelings, that is true strength. Because it doesn’t matter what happens in your life, you are the one who decides how to react. To paraphrase Viktor Frankl, this is the one freedom that no one can take from you. Continue reading
Imagine sitting at the edge of this great abyss. Around you, people are flying. Leaping off from the edge, falling for a while, then soaring much higher than before. You ask yourself how is this even possible. It’s not. That’s the beauty of it.
From the edge it is impossible to understand the forces at work. Yet most people spend their lives doing that. They are afraid of falling. What if the falls breaks them and they’ll never get back up? They’re afraid of flying. What if they soar so high that the sun burns their wings? They’re afraid of spending their lives having never leaped over the edge.
They waste their years being afraid of all these things. And they sit at the very edge, thinking to themselves it is safer this way, yet the fear makes it impossible for them to enjoy where they are. Also, look at all these people flying!
What makes them different?
What does it take to leap from the edge?
You know the expression “leap of faith”? Continue reading
Do what you love. Love what you do.
Odds are you tried something in your life. A passion. A hobby. Something that got you excited, made you feel alive. It felt amazing doing it. And you did it, and did it, and kept at it, but in time it became more and more difficult to stay with it long enough to achieve true success.
Let’s face it: if you’re not in love anymore with what you’re doing, it feels like an uphill struggle. That’s OK if you’re a hobbyist or a dabbler, but if you want a career, if you want to live your life at the highest level possible, then all this might make you want to stop and try something else…
You want to quit because you weren’t expecting that doing what you loved would be so damn frustrating at times. So infuriating. So full of monotony, and moments of despair.
So damn boring…
Wasn’t this supposed to be about love? About passion?
Well… Continue reading
Even the most driven of us — you, me, or even Tony Robbins — can feel unmotivated at times. In fact, sometimes it feels as if there’s nothing we could do.
Yes, I know. You don’t feel like doing anything. I’ve been there, and in fact I still feel that way every now and then. You’re not alone. But I’ve learned a few ways to get motivated when I know I have to get stuff done.
A lot of our self-help culture is focused on what we should do in order to be happy, fulfilled, financially independent. But it’s worth noting that there are a lot of bad habits that we must quit in order to be successful.
Here’s a short list of bad habits you must quit if you want to live a life you’re proud of. Continue reading
It’s quite simple, actually.
The way I see it, a habit actually leads to a goal.
For example, if you want to have a clean body, you must develop the habit of washing yourself regularly. If you want to lose weight, you might develop the habit of working out.
What you do today influences what will happen with your long term goals.
This is the trick that eludes most people, when starting out, the goal is not the goal, but rather the goal is to create the habit(s) that will allow you to achieve your goal. Your first goal is to focus for as long as it takes to create a habit.
Once you’re on autopilot, it will be far more difficult to give up on working out, no matter what. Continue reading