For as long as I can remember I’ve been fascinated by people who are phenomenal at what they do; especially those who are success in more than one area of their life.
After all, my first ever “big dream” was when I was seven or so years old, and I wanted to change my name into Chris Packlem, and become the richest man ever.
Funny how things change over time. Or better said, how we change.
But how do successful people do all that they do?
Over the years I’ve read the books written by/about the highly successful, watched interviews, read their blogs, etc.
And I’ve learned that successful people are not more intelligent, or just lucky, or born into the right family.
But they do certain things differently than other folks. Continue reading
My father used to have this laidback approach to life. Being the owner of a pretty successful restaurant, he’d go drive to work in the morning, drink his coffee, eat his breakfast, then he’d watch TV in his office for a few hours, then head back home in the afternoon, take a nap, then head back to the restaurant at around 7 PM, eat dinner, watch TV for a few more hours in his office, then drive back home, drink some wine, and then sit on the couch watching TV for a few more hours.
Those were the habits I observed during the years.
My father also didn’t like to have much. No plans for the future, no great ambitions. He wasn’t passionate enough about his business to learn and evolve. He also notoriously didn’t like to invest in his restaurant, which meant that the damn thing was close to falling apart when he went bankrupt.
Looking back, everyone could see what had happened, and why. But he didn’t. He never did. He put the blame on all sorts of external factors (real or even imaginary), and he thought it all to be unfair. Those who made it big were all thieves, liars, or lucky. And he wasn’t any of those things.
Funny. Continue reading
“It seems to me that if you or I must choose between two courses of thought or action, we should remember our dying and try so to live that our death brings no pleasure to the world.” — John Steinbeck
We are born soft. Not weak, but with a certain sweetness deep inside our souls. As kids, we feel invincible in our desire to discover the world, to conquer it, to become who we want to be.
Nothing seems impossible. Nothing is out of reach.
But then we grow up and most often than not, we grow weary of others. We try to be like them, we want them to like us, we want to be accepted…
Here in Romania we have a pretty strange educational system. And, well, the whole system does nothing to tell you that you are special, that you are capable of greatness. I don’t know if this is a bad thing or not, but I’ve always wanted to believe that people have greatness inside of them, that people are capable of being great, of doing wonderful things.
But they’re constantly being told that they’re just average, that they have to play a small part, that changing the world is a task reserved to other individuals.
It’s always others who get to do all the things we want to do, isn’t it? Continue reading
”It all comes down to the inner game. Changing your life is a change in the inner game.” – Tony Robbins
There are so many external factors that influence our lives that it’s easy to waste our efforts trying to change them according to our desires.
Mastering others is, indeed, power, but having control over oneself, one’s emotions and feelings, that is true strength. Because it doesn’t matter what happens in your life, you are the one who decides how to react. To paraphrase Viktor Frankl, this is the one freedom that no one can take from you. Continue reading
Imagine sitting at the edge of this great abyss. Around you, people are flying. Leaping off from the edge, falling for a while, then soaring much higher than before. You ask yourself how is this even possible. It’s not. That’s the beauty of it.
From the edge it is impossible to understand the forces at work. Yet most people spend their lives doing that. They are afraid of falling. What if the falls breaks them and they’ll never get back up? They’re afraid of flying. What if they soar so high that the sun burns their wings? They’re afraid of spending their lives having never leaped over the edge.
They waste their years being afraid of all these things. And they sit at the very edge, thinking to themselves it is safer this way, yet the fear makes it impossible for them to enjoy where they are. Also, look at all these people flying!
What makes them different?
What does it take to leap from the edge?
You know the expression “leap of faith”? Continue reading
Do what you love. Love what you do.
Odds are you tried something in your life. A passion. A hobby. Something that got you excited, made you feel alive. It felt amazing doing it. And you did it, and did it, and kept at it, but in time it became more and more difficult to stay with it long enough to achieve true success.
Let’s face it: if you’re not in love anymore with what you’re doing, it feels like an uphill struggle. That’s OK if you’re a hobbyist or a dabbler, but if you want a career, if you want to live your life at the highest level possible, then all this might make you want to stop and try something else…
You want to quit because you weren’t expecting that doing what you loved would be so damn frustrating at times. So infuriating. So full of monotony, and moments of despair.
So damn boring…
Wasn’t this supposed to be about love? About passion?
Well… Continue reading