When it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders…

16831009_1319495278123827_4222685105763325865_n“If you saw Atlas, the giant who holds the world on his shoulders, if you saw that he stood, blood running down his chest, his knees buckling, his arms trembling but still trying to hold the world aloft with the last of his strength, and the greater his effort the heavier the world bore down upon his shoulders – What would you tell him?”

“I…don’t know. What…could he do? What would you tell him?”

“To shrug.” – Ayn Rand

For those of your who are into hitting the gym, lifting weights, I say this: when it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders… squat.

To the rest of you: massive action.

That’s it.

I used to victimize myself over all the bad things that happened to me. I was depressed and anxious and in poor health and poor and pessimistic. The world was a terrible place.

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Gutless

“When people say they’re skeptical, or pessimistic, I get it. But let’s face it, you’re gutless. It takes no guts to be a skeptic. It takes no guts to try nothing and say it’s not gonna work. It takes guts to put your ass on the line and believe something’s possible. It takes guts to pursue an answer. It takes guts to fail and step back up and keep pushing”Tony Robbins
Your mind is designed in such a way to prevent you from getting hurt. In nature, this is quite the mechanism.

But in the human society, we have developed the “someday” mechanism.

Someday we’ll be good enough or brave enough or smart enough or have the time to do this or that.

Someday we’ll become what we’ve always wanted to be.

Someday we’ll write our book or start our business.

And most people wait their whole lives for this someday, which never comes.

Why?

Because “someday” doesn’t exist. Like unicorns. Or Santa Claus.

All you have is today.

All you have is the ability to ignore the feeling that assuming certain changes is going to ruin your life.

Realize this deeply and you’ll be free to do anything you want. Don’t, and you’ll spend your whole life making excuses for why you have to settle for less than what you really want.

All it takes is guts. There is no such thing as courage, talent, or greatness.

All you need is the guts to do the thing. Face your fears. Be more afraid of living an unlived life.

When I first started writing, obviously, I sucked.

I had this idea that writing was easy.

It wasn’t.

After some 4 years, I was kind of good. Kind of.

But then I decided to write in English. And I wasn’t as good.

And this scared me. And made me sad. And made me angry.

Should I have given up then, now you wouldn’t be reading this post.

There are at least a thousand reasons why a specific endeavor won’t work. At least. You can spend an enormous amount of time thinking them all up or you can just trust that one reason why it will work out.

You’ve got to have the guts to be honest with yourself and take responsibility for your life.

Your not getting what you want not because there are some people out there who are better than you.

No.

You are not getting what you want because there are some people out there who work harder than you.

That’s it.

We are all created equally, but some work harder than others.

Some have the guts to go after what they want, ignoring the inner voice that tells them that it probably won’t work out, that they’ll get hurt, that it’s best to hide under the bed.

Some have the guts to go after what they want as if their lives depends on it.

And you should too.

It’s all about progress (continued)

We must view with profound respect the infinite capacity of the human mind to resist the inroads of useful knowledge. – Thomas B. Lounsbury

I spent eight years of my life writing and reading without:

  • Earning money
  • Other people reading it (besides the ocassional muse)

But I kept at it.

First month I started this blog: 500 views.

First month of self-publishing: 1 e-book sold and one paperback. I quit for a while, tried again after I started this blog: first month of self-publishing(second time) I sold 3 e-copies of a short story and earned $1.05 before taxes.

Any sane person would have quit.

I didn’t.

A few months after that, I finally began selling books, earning from advertising.

I thought this was it. The hard work paid off.

I met this girl, we fell in love.

It was paradise.

I was who I was and I didn’t have to do anything else.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t work this way.

Life’s perfect? You have to fight to keep it that way.

In life, stagnation is synonimous with atrophy.

Writing felt like work.

I just didn’t feel like it. Gave up on the habits that helped me all those years.

Whenever you feel absolutely certain about something, life’s gonna hit you in the head with a brick. That’s a universal rule.

If you stop growing, if you stop expanding your consciousness, if you stop setting goals… That’s the beginning of the end.

Be proud, but never satisfied.

I had given up on reading. Not enough time I told myself…

Big mistake, big, big mistake.

When certain problems arised, I couldn’t adapt. I just froze. Felt like lying on the floor. I became a crybaby.

It all felt useless.

I had lost everything. Health problems, money problems, the girl I loved left me…

Why did this had to happen to me?

And you know what? The answer is, why not?

Life happens to all of us. Whether we like it or not.

If we don’t fight for what we want, even after we’ve gained it, life’s going to take it from us.

It’s that simple.

The only way to get more than what you have is to become more. To learn, to grow, to develop certain skills.

Every day, we have two choices: assume responsibility for our lives, for our destiny, and suffer the pain of discipline, or blame everyone else for our lives, feel miserable about ourselves and die a slow and undignifying death…

Never stop learning.

Progress is essential.

It’s what we’re here for.

And there are always areas of our lives we could better develop.

I learned this lesson the hard way…not going to make this mistake ever again.

It’s all about progress…

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I am a creature of habit. Like most other people, I suppose. You know, those of us who build an intricate web of routines to help us cope with the anxiety caused by the uncertainty of life.

Something to give you the illusion of having the ability to control (or even predict) the future.

We go to the same coffee shop each morning, we spend the same amount of time watching TV late at night. We create a certain pattern.

We want today and tomorrow to contain just enough deja vus to remind us of yesterday.

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Obstacles

“Don’t let life discourage you; everyone who got where they are had to begin where they were.” — Richard L. Evans
There comes a time when a certain number of obstacles get in the way of you getting what you want.

Setbacks.

Failures.

Dissapointments.

What you thought would happen, didn’t. Your expectations turned out to be misguided.

What do you do then?

Well, the answer is simple. Rest, if you have to. Don’t quit, but take a short break to think things through. What happened, who did what, and what has to be done to improve the situation.

Don’t spend too much though. You’ve got to keep moving forward, no matter what.

Most people give up when they encounter resistance because they secretly wish it were easy.

Hate to break it down to you, but it never goes as smoothly as you think it will.

Most times it’s an uphill battle. And it keeps being so, even as you get better and wiser.

But you’ve got to keep going. Think of the view from the top, think of why you chose this path.

Your why has to be strong enough to beat the crap out of any setback, drawback, dissapointment, or excuse.

Afraid you’ll fail?

Be more afraid you won’t succeed.

Do what has to be done, do what others don’t want to do, so you can get what others can only wish for.

Fight, dammit. Fight.

This is what really makes the difference. How much effort people put into whatever it is you’re doing. That’s it.

The Inner Game

​”It all comes down to the inner game. Changing your life is a change in the inner game.” – Tony Robbins
There are so many external factors that influence our lives that it’s easy to waste our efforts trying to change them according to our desires.

Mastering others is, indeed, power, but having control over oneself, one’s emotions and feelings, that is where true strength resides.

Because it doesn’t matter what happens in your life, you are the one who decides how to react.

To paraphrase Viktor Frankl, this is the one freedom that no one can take from you.

All else is temporary. Fragile, uncertain.

Your thoughts, your inner world, the happiness that you create(or not) for yourself, these are the only things you’ll ever have control over. As long as you make it a personal goal.

Let me give you an example: happiness.

And you all know the terrible cliche that happiness comes from within. It sounds too good to be true. It seems almost impossible.

Two people who have exact same circumstances in life. They earn the same amount of money, live in the same neighborhood, have the same kind of relationships with others. One is happy, the other is not.

It’s all about their own perspectives.

The inner game, how well they control it.

If you are  dependant on external factors, you’ll never be content. It’s a fact.

If you constantly compare yourself to others, there will always be someone who has more. Someone who’s better.

In the end, the insecurities you can’t change will end up destroying you.

You know, the ones you don’t like to admit.

Funny thing: what is the best answer when someone asks you if you have insecurities?

Who doesn’t?

Bird by bird

birds1“Thirty years ago my older brother, who was ten years old at the time, was trying to get a report written on birds that he’d had three months to write, which was due the next day. We were out at our family cabin in Bolinas, and he was at the kitchen table close to tears, surrounded by binder paper and pencils and unopened books about birds, immobilized by the hugeness of the task ahead. Then my father sat down beside him put his arm around my brother’s shoulder, and said, “Bird by bird, buddy. Just take it bird by bird.”Anne Lamott

There are some psychologists who believe over-thinkers to have highly specialized brains; their minds are great at solving complex problems. Where most people give up easily enough, they keep thinking and trying to find a solution. They spend more time on a certain task.

But over-thinkers often get stuck. Their minds keep trying to fix something that can’t be fixed, no matter what. And this is slowly killing them inside. Continue reading