As most other terms containing the word “self,” self-confidence is one of the many things we pursue in life. Defined as having the mindset to do a thing, and do it well, self-confidence is the closest thing we have to a super power.
But how do you boost your self-confidence?
How do you grow out of the person that you are in order to become who you want to be?
“If a man empties his purse into his head no one can take it away from him. An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest.”
In November 2012, I could finally call myself a full-time blogger. I was earning anywhere between $100 and $800 per day, averaging an income of between $5,000 to $12,000 per month.
I felt invincible. I felt that there was nothing else I had to do. I had reached the top of the mountain.
I stopped reading other blogs with the goal of improving my own writing, or to be inspired. I stopped reading books. I stopped investing in my education. I stopped investing in myself.
That wasn’t a smart move.
You see, education, learning, knowledge — you lose it if you don’t improve it.
The world is changing at an accelerated pace: even if you’re on the road to success, you will get run over if you aren’t fast enough.
That’s what I didn’t get for most of my life. Education is not something you accumulate and will remain in your head forever. It’s the same as working out: you need to do it on a consistent basis in order to stay in shape.
If you can’t wait to get out college, so you never have to learn anything at all, I am sorry to tell you this, but all the years you’ve spent learning didn’t teach you much.
The more you learn, the more you earn.
The more skills you develop, the easier it is to adapt to an ever-changing economic environment.
“Luck is a dividend of sweat. The more you sweat, the luckier you get.” – Ray Kroc
If you’ve been following this blog for some time, you know that I am a big advocate of perseverance. This is how I define the grind, the hustle: to keep going in spite numerous obstacles, despite all the other people who are more talented, better connected, or have more time.
To grind means to want it more than just about anyone else.
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.”
Ever felt like a failure? Odds are that you did. Maybe you still do. I know I did. I know there were days when I didn’t want to wake up, I didn’t want to confront reality, to fight for what I wanted.
I used to spend a lot of time imagining the future, I used to do everything I could to avoid doing what has always been most important to me: writing.
Because I was afraid I’d fail. I was afraid that things would never be as beautiful as they were inside my head. I was afraid of rejection, I was afraid that the day will come when I will know for sure that I’ll never be who I always dreamed of being. That I’ll never be who I’ve always wanted to be.
When you see someone who’s fantastic at what they do, you just can’t ignore them.
They operate at what is commonly called “highest level.” Their every thought, action, and word is in reach of mastery.
But, as contrary to what most people believe, especially those who dedicate their lives to just watching mastery on a TV screen all day long, the desire for greatness resides in all of us. We all have this innate desire to work hard in order to become great at what we do.
Unfortunately, most people give up on this feeling in order to watch someone else be that good. That’s why we watch sports, or movies, or those auditions on Whatever Country’s Got Talent.
We want to be reminded that some people can hold the world on their shoulders, but we don’t want to hold the damn thing ourselves.
As I often say, everybody wants to eat, but few are willing to hunt.
Well…. today I am going to share with you four rules of success that the successful among us rarely share, four rules that are going to help you on your quest for mastery and greatness.
In 2012 I kind of became online famous. It was the year when I released my first book, got my first twenty thousand readers, and fell in love with a beautiful and talented artist.
I knew what I wanted to do, why I wanted to do it, and how to do it.
There was nothing quite like it. Clarity of purpose, financial purpose, love, the admiration and respect of countless strangers from around the world.
Then I lost it all. March 2014. Worst month of my life.
Struggled with some health issues. My grandfather died. My girlfriend left me.
After that, I’d break down repeatedly from time to time. It was difficult to focus. People don’t often talk about that; how difficult it is to focus when you are depressed or grieving or feeling lost in ways you cannot define or analyze.