If You Don’t Get at Least a Hundred Likes on Your Selfies, Are You Even an Influencer?

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Some days I spend too much time on social media. It’s addictive, I get it. It’s also probably one of the primary causes of depression and anxiety among Millenials.

It is what it is.

But today I don’t want to talk about us comparing our day to day lives with the highlight reel of the rich and famous.

Today I want to talk about those who pretend to be rich and famous for likes and shares and a bit of money.

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I Wasted My Twenties By Being Successful Too Soon, Too Fast

There, I said it. 

I started my first blog on the 22nd of April, 2012. A month or so later, after having published a bunch of mediocre blog posts, one of my articles went viral.

From then on out, it was all rather confusing. Yeah, Neil Gaiman mentioned one of my articles on Twitter. So did Random House. I was gaining anywhere between 500 to 800 new followers per day.

By November the same year I was earning around $100 per day. 

I see everyone running around for success. And I wish that everyone could have their fair share of success and fame and glory and the respect and admiration of others, but the truth is that we do not enjoy the victory, but the struggle.

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The Psychological Impossibility of Tragedy in the Mind of Someone Living in the Twenty-First Century

“It wasn’t only wickedness and scheming that made people unhappy, it was confusion and misunderstanding; above all, it was the failure to grasp the simple truth that other people are as real as you.” – Ian McEwan

They say the biggest distance between two people is misunderstanding. It creates this gap between people. Or is it a wall? And it’s frustrating, isn’t it? It does make you feel as if you’re alone, the only one who thinks and says and acts in a certain way.

And by feeling so don’t we diminish others as well? Don’t we fail to understand that even though they are different, they’re still inherently the same as us? And they deserve to be treated the same way we’d like to be treated.

I don’t know, it’s a difficult question to answer.

But could you hate someone if you knew why they do what they do? If you could truly understand them? Their thoughts? Their feelings? Know their past? Their struggles? What they want? What they have lost?

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How I Quit Smoking: 10 Genuinely Helpful Tips

Like the vast majority of ex-smokers, I tried to quit many times and failed. I remember my first quit: I had smoked three packs of cigarettes over a 24 hour period, and it was the first time that I felt disgusted by the habit. Prior to this, I was one of those who enjoyed smoking. Well, at least that was what I was telling myself.

In order to stop for good, I resorted to listening to Paul McKenna’s hypnosis. I was into self-hypnosis and NLP at the time, so I thought this would be enough to make me quit…

Well, the thing was that I was quite stressed. That’s an understatement. I almost beat a cab driver once, and on another occasion I started running after a car that hadn’t stopped at a pedestrian crossing.

No wonder this didn’t last long. All it took was to get real angry once, more than usual, and the first thing I did was go the grocery store and buy a pack of cigarettes.

After this, I think I tried to quit a couple more times, always insisting on listening to Paul McKenna urging me to give up that nasty habit once and for all, but to no avail.

Then, last year in May, I had become so disgusted with myself for being a slave to this stupid habit, and more disgusted with the fact that I kept trying to quit and failed. Also, a few days prior, a friend of mine told me that he considered all smokers to be emotionally weak: they needed something to help them cope with their own emotions.

That was it. I was going to quit smoking or die trying.

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Depression is a Luxury

First of all, I’d like to say that I have been that guy. The loser. Depressed, suicidal, yet doing my best to motivate others. The words I wrote were for myself, for those like myself, and for those who could, one day, end up like me.

That being said, I believe in every single word spoken in that video. I understand the principles at work, I have lived in comfort (and depression), I have desired comfort, and the more I wanted comfort, the more discomfort I had in my life.

If you are inclined to disagree with me, or feel that I am insensitive to people’s mental health, I do urge you to listen Joe Rogan in this video, then try to see it in a less civilized manner. See yourself as less than human, and a bit more animal, and see that happiness and mental well-being is the result of overcoming struggles, not avoiding them.Continue reading “Depression is a Luxury”