“If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: We all want everything to be okay. We don’t even wish so much for fantastic or marvelous or outstanding. We will happily settle for okay, because most of the time, okay is enough.” — David Levithan
Let me tell you something about myself: I’ve never really settled for okay. Yes, okay is good. For a while. But there’s always something to ruin it… there’s always something waiting to ruin our lives… Continue reading
Or a kick in the ass is also a step forward. That would be a sort of alternate title for this blog post.
I’m sure you know what failure means, but what you don’t know is that, whether life changing or not, every defeat carries with it enormous potential. Somewhere hidden, of course.
We often choose to deny it, but failure is an integral part of who we are as humans.
That’s why we like success stories so much. That’s why we love to believe that brilliant writers come up with wonderful first drafts. Everything they write is gold. The bitter alternative to this is that we have to work hard all our lives and still be haunted by the monster of failure.
We all want to become so good at what we love doing that it becomes effortless. We want to stroll our fingers across the keyboard and win the Pulitzer.
But it’s not like that.
Our greatest fear is not that we will fall, our greatest fear is that we will live a full life and never fly.
We’re not afraid of dying, we’re afraid of dying before the world sees who we really are.
We were born with wings, yet most times we choose to crawl through life. Yet, when our wings get cut, we’re blamed for not being able to fly. Strange world. Strange world, indeed.
You have all the excuses in the world not to achieve your dreams, not to be who you’ve always wanted to be. They are all valid. And the world might even agree with you and understand your situation.
But does it really matter? Continue reading
When did we become a therapy society? When did it become easier to tell everyone about our troubles, but not our successes? Do you ever think about that?
But what is happiness? How can we attain it?
Well… the idea is that happiness cannot be pursued. It’s not something you receive or stumble upon. It’s not something to be found while actively searching for it. Continue reading
Anton Chekhov once wrote that any idiot can face a crisis – it’s day to day life that wears you out.
And he was right.
I believe that most of us are strong enough to conquer the reality we live in, but so few of us are actually in control. It’s the ups and downs that make life interesting, to say the least. The struggles, the fights, the losses. Continue reading
“Luck is a dividend of sweat. The more you sweat, the luckier you get.” – Ray Kroc
If you’ve been following this blog for some time, you know that I am a big advocate of perseverance. This is how I define the grind, the hustle: to keep going in spite numerous obstacles, despite all the other people who are more talented, better connected, or have more time.
To grind means to want it more than just about anyone else.
How bad do you want it? Continue reading
I cannot stress this enough: I’d have to spend the rest of my life writing about it. I’d have to record myself talking about it, I’d have to tell everyone I meet about it.
You can do anything you want!
ANYTHING. Continue reading