Here’s the thing about being human: you are given a lot of crutches in life, but they are double edged swords. They make you feel better for a while, but you’ve got to give up your power…
Put the blame on someone else or something else…
Fate, some god, the economy, other people, society, or your parents…
Yeah…they make you feel better…
It is easy to call talented those who worked harder than you in order to be better than you…
It is easy to sit on your couch and wait for your soulmate to find you… Because that’s what all the fairytales told you it’s going to happen.
It’s easy to put the blame somewhere else, and forever give up on the responsibility to change yourself for the better…
But you know what’s not easy? Continue reading
“It seems to me that if you or I must choose between two courses of thought or action, we should remember our dying and try so to live that our death brings no pleasure to the world.” — John Steinbeck
We are born soft. Not weak, but with a certain sweetness deep inside our souls. As kids, we feel invincible in our desire to discover the world, to conquer it, to become who we want to be.
Nothing seems impossible. Nothing is out of reach.
But then we grow up and most often than not, we grow weary of others. We try to be like them, we want them to like us, we want to be accepted…
Here in Romania we have a pretty strange educational system. And, well, the whole system does nothing to tell you that you are special, that you are capable of greatness. I don’t know if this is a bad thing or not, but I’ve always wanted to believe that people have greatness inside of them, that people are capable of being great, of doing wonderful things.
But they’re constantly being told that they’re just average, that they have to play a small part, that changing the world is a task reserved to other individuals.
It’s always others who get to do all the things we want to do, isn’t it? Continue reading
”It all comes down to the inner game. Changing your life is a change in the inner game.” – Tony Robbins
There are so many external factors that influence our lives that it’s easy to waste our efforts trying to change them according to our desires.
Mastering others is, indeed, power, but having control over oneself, one’s emotions and feelings, that is true strength. Because it doesn’t matter what happens in your life, you are the one who decides how to react. To paraphrase Viktor Frankl, this is the one freedom that no one can take from you. Continue reading
Imagine sitting at the edge of this great abyss. Around you, people are flying. Leaping off from the edge, falling for a while, then soaring much higher than before. You ask yourself how is this even possible. It’s not. That’s the beauty of it.
From the edge it is impossible to understand the forces at work. Yet most people spend their lives doing that. They are afraid of falling. What if the falls breaks them and they’ll never get back up? They’re afraid of flying. What if they soar so high that the sun burns their wings? They’re afraid of spending their lives having never leaped over the edge.
They waste their years being afraid of all these things. And they sit at the very edge, thinking to themselves it is safer this way, yet the fear makes it impossible for them to enjoy where they are. Also, look at all these people flying!
What makes them different?
What does it take to leap from the edge?
You know the expression “leap of faith”? Continue reading
One of the bitter truths of life is that we are constantly tearing ourselves apart because of people who have yet to step in our shoes. And we don’t even realize that if they were, indeed, to step in our shoes, they’d fall the first step.
So I ask you this: why are you thinking so much about what others think of you?
Maybe it’s because you do not feel yourself good enough to get the job done. You want some one to cheer you along. Someone to encourage you. Maybe it’s because you are not doing it for yourself, but for others’ approval. If that is so, then you will die inside whenever they reject you. Because they will. Sooner or later.
Haters will see you walk on water and say it’s because you can’t swim.
Accept this and move on. Continue reading
January first. Monday. Someday.
What do these three all have in common?
That’s where 99% of our motivation, drive, hopes, and aspirations live. Our plans and resolutions. Our desire to change, to evolve, to strive for greatness, to do what is best for us.
We vacation on Someday Island, we’ll start working out on Monday, and we make these crazy ambitious resolutions on January first.
And the truth is that you tell yourself you’ll start working out on Monday, and you stick to your resolutions until January the 15th. If you’re lucky.
And you know why? Continue reading