Habits Instead of Goals

 

It’s quite simple, actually.

The way I see it, a habit actually leads to a goal.

For example, if you want to have a clean body, you must develop the habit of washing yourself regularly. If you want to lose weight, you might develop the habit of working out.

What you do today influences what will happen with your long term goals.

This is the trick that eludes most people, when starting out, the goal is not the goal, but rather the goal is to create the habit(s) that will allow you to achieve your goal. Your first goal is to focus for as long as it takes to create a habit.

Once you’re on autopilot, it will be far more difficult to give up on working out, no matter what. Continue reading

Never Give Up on Your Dreams

One of my favorite quotes goes like this: “Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.”

Ambrose Redmon wrote that.

Fear is an impulse, or like the tattoo on my arm states, “Fear is the mind killer.” Frank Herbert wrote that.

What does fear have to do with anything? Well, it has a lot to do with how I became a writer. Continue reading

A Life of Quiet Desperation

“Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.”Henry David Thoreau

You huddle under the warmth of the blanket, cursing the alarm. It is chilly outside. There’s no point. In any of the things you are about to do. Yet, you have to get up. You have to wash yourself, get dressed, get to work. And you have to sit there, bored out of your mind, doing graceless tasks that have to be done because your boss said so. Because otherwise, you’d be unable to pay the bills or afford to buy food.

The nine to five. The lunch break. The grave ticking of the clock that slices your life away carelessly. The habit of grasping for a bit of comfort once you get home. The days when you can Netflix and chill your life away. The restless resignation that you are unable to do more than this.

Let me tell you one thing: the monster of insecurity is born out of our childish desire for comfort and security. Continue reading

Be Yourself

Modern day technology allows us to access information faster than ever. More information than ever. Keeps us connected. Keeps us in touch with people half a world away.

But there is a dangerous side effect to such a high level of media consumption.

We forget who we are. Continue reading

Self-Love is The Only Kind of Love There is

“The remarkable thing is that we really love our neighbor as ourselves: we do unto others as we do unto ourselves. We hate others when we hate ourselves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves. We are prone to sacrifice others when we are ready to sacrifice ourselves.” Eric Hoffer

Others: a simple word used to describe people. A lot of them. Every single human being on this earth besides yourself. Others. At times they seem too many, too angry, too bitter, too selfish. Too stupid. Other times, it just seems they just packed they’re gone.

It depends on you, actually. Continue reading

In Suffering You Will Meet Yourself

“It’s at the borders of pain and suffering that the men are separated from the boys.”Emil Zatopek

Everybody wants to eat, but few are willing to hunt. Everybody’s got a plan, a goal, a dream, and they give up on it as soon as there’s an obstacle, a defeat…

The man who fears losing has already lost. The man who is afraid of getting punched in the face will never live life on his terms.

I used to be the archetypal nice guy. Trying to play nice, because I didn’t want to get hurt. Afraid to ask questions because I was afraid of being told “no.”

The road to hell is paved with good intentions, adverbs, regrets, and all sorts of people who never had the guts to do what they knew in their hearts was right.

Fear is such a debilitating disease. Continue reading

Connect The Dots

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward you can only connect them looking backwards. 

So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. 

You have to trust in something: your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. 

Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path.” — Steve Jobs

Fourteen years ago someone read one of my stories.

They didn’t like it. They told me to give up and do something else.

And this made me angry.

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