The little things

thingsWe’ve been told (and we keep on telling ourselves on a regular basis) that life finds a way, that somehow things turn out for the better. That if you want it, you can have it.

Sadly, that’s not true.

Do you know what keeps me up some nights? It’s the fear that somehow I won’t be able to write anymore, that somehow life’s going to take that away from me. And that I won’t be able to find a way, that life just won’t want to present me with a solution. Continue reading

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To whom it may concern

letterI’m twenty six years old, and in that short time frame I’ve learned that life is rarely fair. But it goes on. Whether we like it or not, life goes on.

Maybe we live in a dangerous world. Maybe this world has always been “unsafe” for those who weren’t sure what to do.

And I’d like to tell you there’s nothing to be afraid of, I’d like to tell you that failures build a man, that every fall is also a step forward. That what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger…

But the truth is that, most times, what doesn’t kill you makes you wish it did. Continue reading

When it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders…

16831009_1319495278123827_4222685105763325865_n“If you saw Atlas, the giant who holds the world on his shoulders, if you saw that he stood, blood running down his chest, his knees buckling, his arms trembling but still trying to hold the world aloft with the last of his strength, and the greater his effort the heavier the world bore down upon his shoulders – What would you tell him?”

“I…don’t know. What…could he do? What would you tell him?”

“To shrug.” – Ayn Rand

For those of your who are into hitting the gym, lifting weights, I say this: when it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders… squat.

To the rest of you: massive action.

That’s it.

I used to victimize myself over all the bad things that happened to me. I was depressed and anxious and in poor health and poor and pessimistic. The world was a terrible place.

Why did this had to happen to me? Continue reading

Gutless

“When people say they’re skeptical, or pessimistic, I get it. But let’s face it, you’re gutless. It takes no guts to be a skeptic. It takes no guts to try nothing and say it’s not gonna work. It takes guts to put your ass on the line and believe something’s possible. It takes guts to pursue an answer. It takes guts to fail and step back up and keep pushing”Tony Robbins
Your mind is designed in such a way to prevent you from getting hurt. In nature, this is quite the mechanism.

But in the human society, we have developed the “someday” mechanism.

Someday we’ll be good enough or brave enough or smart enough or have the time to do this or that.

Someday we’ll become what we’ve always wanted to be.

Someday we’ll write our book or start our business.

And most people wait their whole lives for this someday, which never comes.

Why?

Because “someday” doesn’t exist. Like unicorns. Or Santa Claus.

All you have is today.

All you have is the ability to ignore the feeling that assuming certain changes is going to ruin your life.

Realize this deeply and you’ll be free to do anything you want. Don’t, and you’ll spend your whole life making excuses for why you have to settle for less than what you really want.

All it takes is guts. There is no such thing as courage, talent, or greatness.

All you need is the guts to do the thing. Face your fears. Be more afraid of living an unlived life.

When I first started writing, obviously, I sucked.

I had this idea that writing was easy.

It wasn’t.

After some 4 years, I was kind of good. Kind of.

But then I decided to write in English. And I wasn’t as good.

And this scared me. And made me sad. And made me angry.

Should I have given up then, now you wouldn’t be reading this post.

There are at least a thousand reasons why a specific endeavor won’t work. At least. You can spend an enormous amount of time thinking them all up or you can just trust that one reason why it will work out.

You’ve got to have the guts to be honest with yourself and take responsibility for your life.

Your not getting what you want not because there are some people out there who are better than you.

No.

You are not getting what you want because there are some people out there who work harder than you.

That’s it.

We are all created equally, but some work harder than others.

Some have the guts to go after what they want, ignoring the inner voice that tells them that it probably won’t work out, that they’ll get hurt, that it’s best to hide under the bed.

Some have the guts to go after what they want as if their lives depends on it.

And you should too.

“To love”

Falling in love is easy. Too easy sometimes. We fall in love with someone who’s a little bit different than all the others we have met before, we fall in love when someone tells us something new about ourselves, we fall in love with the way someone acts or talks, we fall in love with people who have traits that are similar or exactly the opposite of ours.

There are just about a million different reasons why we fall in love. Continue reading

It’s all about progress (continued)

We must view with profound respect the infinite capacity of the human mind to resist the inroads of useful knowledge. – Thomas B. Lounsbury

I spent eight years of my life writing and reading without:

  • Earning money
  • Other people reading it (besides the ocassional muse)

But I kept at it.

First month I started this blog: 500 views.

First month of self-publishing: 1 e-book sold and one paperback. I quit for a while, tried again after I started this blog: first month of self-publishing(second time) I sold 3 e-copies of a short story and earned $1.05 before taxes.

Any sane person would have quit.

I didn’t.

A few months after that, I finally began selling books, earning from advertising.

I thought this was it. The hard work paid off.

I met this girl, we fell in love.

It was paradise.

I was who I was and I didn’t have to do anything else.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t work this way.

Life’s perfect? You have to fight to keep it that way.

In life, stagnation is synonimous with atrophy.

Writing felt like work.

I just didn’t feel like it. Gave up on the habits that helped me all those years.

Whenever you feel absolutely certain about something, life’s gonna hit you in the head with a brick. That’s a universal rule.

If you stop growing, if you stop expanding your consciousness, if you stop setting goals… That’s the beginning of the end.

Be proud, but never satisfied.

I had given up on reading. Not enough time I told myself…

Big mistake, big, big mistake.

When certain problems arised, I couldn’t adapt. I just froze. Felt like lying on the floor. I became a crybaby.

It all felt useless.

I had lost everything. Health problems, money problems, the girl I loved left me…

Why did this had to happen to me?

And you know what? The answer is, why not?

Life happens to all of us. Whether we like it or not.

If we don’t fight for what we want, even after we’ve gained it, life’s going to take it from us.

It’s that simple.

The only way to get more than what you have is to become more. To learn, to grow, to develop certain skills.

Every day, we have two choices: assume responsibility for our lives, for our destiny, and suffer the pain of discipline, or blame everyone else for our lives, feel miserable about ourselves and die a slow and undignifying death…

Never stop learning.

Progress is essential.

It’s what we’re here for.

And there are always areas of our lives we could better develop.

I learned this lesson the hard way…not going to make this mistake ever again.

It’s all about progress…

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I am a creature of habit. Like most other people, I suppose. You know, those of us who build an intricate web of routines to help us cope with the anxiety caused by the uncertainty of life.

Something to give you the illusion of having the ability to control (or even predict) the future.

We go to the same coffee shop each morning, we spend the same amount of time watching TV late at night. We create a certain pattern.

We want today and tomorrow to contain just enough deja vus to remind us of yesterday.

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