Alone/lonely

“We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and — in spite of True Romance magazines — we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely — at least, not all the time — but essentially, and finally, alone. This is what makes your self-respect so important, and I don’t see how you can respect yourself if you must look in the hearts and minds of others for your happiness.” Hunter S. Thompson

I should start by saying that being alone and feeling lonely are separated by one thing: your perception of the situation. Which, of course, can be changed, but most of the times is a subconscious decision that appears to be out of your control.

My own loneliness is a contradictory issue. I have to be alone, I need to be alone, and I love being alone. I can write, I can enjoy the silence for longer periods of time than almost anyone else I ever met. I can only find myself when I am all alone in a silent room. I go out with people, act silly and whatnot for a couple of hours, all the while longing to go back home and be all by myself. I’ve been at parties and wanted nothing more than to go home, where there’s no one waiting but the hope of finding myself again.

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Life is war

 

“The one perfectly divine thing, the one glimpse of God’s paradise given on earth, is to fight a losing battle – and not lose it.”

Life is a war.

You have to fight to get what you want, you have to fight to become the person you want to be. You have to fight to put food on the table, to be fit, to accomplish goals, to take care of your body.

The hustle, as they say, never ends.

Of course, you might be inclined to use one of life’s many crutches: to have someone else take care of your needs, to dream of retirement, to dream of winning the lottery or reaching Heaven. Continue reading

Why so serious?

This is just a simple post to remind you not to take life too seriously. You’re not going to come out of it alive anyway.

People care too much. About all sorts of minor things.

Who did what, who said what.

They care too much about people who hardly ever think about them in return.

They care about who shares their beliefs and why, and who doesn’t and why not. They care about time more than they should. They care about money, more than it’s healthy. They don’t care about health until they must do something to fix it.

Why so serious?

Life doesn’t make much sense. It never did, never will.

The wisest thing you can do is accept that we know nothing.

If you are now pissed because I tried to be funny via an over-used GIF, then you’re taking yourself too seriously…

Lastly, let me give you a piece of advice: whenever you become aware that you’re taking yourself too seriously, stop, and ask yourself… so what?

Whenever you feel tired, broken, broke, sad, angry, depressed…

Whenever someone rejects you, badmouths you, or laughs at you.

So what?

If you find yourself worrying too much about a certain event in your life, think of the worst possible outcome, and then ask yourself: so what?

So what if the skies come falling down on me?

Life goes on. Or not.

We do what we can with what we have. That’s it.

So, why so serious?

You cannot save people

“You cannot save people. You can only love them.”Anaïs Nin

It was not until a few days ago that I realized how much truth hid beneath these two simple statements. I also understood that I’ve been trying to save the people I love for as long as I can remember. Continue reading

Bird by bird or the art of doing what you can with what you have

birds1“Thirty years ago my older brother, who was ten years old at the time, was trying to get a report written on birds that he’d had three months to write, which was due the next day. We were out at our family cabin in Bolinas, and he was at the kitchen table close to tears, surrounded by binder paper and pencils and unopened books about birds, immobilized by the hugeness of the task ahead. Then my father sat down beside him put his arm around my brother’s shoulder, and said, “Bird by bird, buddy. Just take it bird by bird.”Anne Lamott

There are some psychologists who believe over-thinkers to have highly specialized brains; their minds are great at solving complex problems. Where most people give up easily enough, they keep thinking and trying to find a solution. They spend more time on a certain task that anyone else.

But over-thinkers often get stuck. Their minds keep trying to fix something that can’t be fixed, no matter what. And this slowly kills them inside. Continue reading

How to conquer the world…

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“The measure of who we are is what we do with what we have.” – Vince Lombardi

I’ve wanted to conquer the world ever since I was six. That was when I began to create this grand vision about myself: that one day I would become the richest man in the world. Of course, over the years that vision changed. But still, I want to conquer the world.

But the thing is, you can’t conquer the world by way of force, by manipulating, by intimidating. That is a lesson that every dictator learned the hard way, either by being defeated or by having his legacy destroyed after his death.
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P.S. You’re not going to die

Just a friendly reminder.

And, yes, what doesn’t kill you makes you wish it did, but then it makes you stronger.

Have some hope, show some courage.