He Who Reigns Within Himself

“One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself.” – Leonardo daVinci

There are two kinds of people in this world: those who do things when they feel like doing them, and those who do things until they feel like doing them. The first kind, they let their emotions rule them, they do and say what they feel, when they feel. The second kind, they rely on self-discipline, rely on principles, rules, and the conviction that moods and feelings are unreliable and temporary and easily manipulated. Continue reading

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The Punch You Don’t See Coming…

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In boxing, it’s always the punch you don’t see coming that knocks you down. The punch you weren’t expecting, the punch you never thought would hit you. Life is just like that.

It’s the bizarre coincidences we never even dared take into consideration, with an even stranger ramification of consequences. And in the ensuing chaos, we no longer understand what’s going on, and we feel like drowning. Time becomes inconsistent: a second, a minute, an hour, a day… we can no longer tell what is what. Continue reading

What Does it Mean to ACTUALLY Love Yourself?

Back during the Dark Ages one was required to take into consideration what others thought of them. Individuality, personal space, all of them did not matter that much. You were required to defend your honor. What others said about you, you either had to accept as truth, or fight to prove it as a lie.

Quite different from the way we see ourselves today, right?

Kids have their own rooms, their own private spaces. They are told to love themselves, to not care what others think of them.

Someone else’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.

Something like that.

But what if they’re right?

What if it’s best to live in a social environment and try to understand why others might not like you? Why others might say bad things about you… Continue reading

No Matter

Ever felt so out of balance that it seemed as if the entire universe was conspiring against you? Probably.

The idea is that you should try to live. No matter what. But how do we do that? Especially when one loses hope and faith and courage. When all one does is exist.

The important thing to remember is that we are here to fight the odds and beat them. Life’s a struggle because that’s the only way to learn, to grow, to evolve. Continue reading

You Fall. You Get Up. You Try Again.

I write a lot about failure, because I consider that a man has to overcome his fear of failure. One must understand its nature and effect, if one wishes to be successful.

Truth be told, it’s not the fall that breaks most people, but their fear of falling. You get used pretty fast to the idea that most things don’t work from the first try.

Also, most people don’t achieve their goals because they don’t set them. Can’t hit a target you do not see… Continue reading

You’re Not Broken. You’re Human.

“You say you’re ‘depressed’ – all I see is resilience. You are allowed to feel messed up and inside out. It doesn’t mean you’re defective – it just means you’re human.”David Mitchel

Loneliness. It’s painful. It’s a disease. It’s as if there’s a wall between you and everyone else. It’s just you and the silence. Just you and yourself. It forces you to think. To remember. To feel. To remember what you’d never want to feel again.

Depression. Feels like drowning. With the added difference that you see everyone else breathing. It’s standing at edge of an abyss, staring down at the void, contemplating the idea of oblivion.

We often feel broken beyond repair. Hopeless. We see ourselves as unworthy of redemption.

I want to tell you that we are here to feel.

That is all.

Everything that makes you feel alive is worth experiencing at least once. Sometimes even twice.

It’s all so we develop a certain perspective. It’s so that we grow and become what we’re supposed to become.

So feel. Just feel. Just let it be. Just accept what is.

Let go. Continue reading

Rattle The Bars of Your Cage

“People only get really interesting when they start to rattle the bars of their cages.” – Alain de Botton

They say irony is the song of a bird who has learned to love its cage.

They also say that none are more hopelessly enslaved than those who believe themselves to be free.

We all live in a cage. We all perceive the world around us as limiting. The bars of the cage are all the people who tell us to be realistic, to be this or that, to aim lower, to please others.

To make one compromise after another.

People who tell us that we’ll never make it.

I say, rattle the bars. Continue reading