Dream. Hope. Hustle.

What amuses me most about dreams is that most of the time we tend to attach a sort of vague hope to them. It’s like we spend an awful lot of time contemplating a distant future when all our dreams will come true instead of actually trying to make them come true.

But it doesn’t work like that.

I try not to regret (the things I did or didn’t do) but I can’t help but feel sorry that half my “career” as a writer was spent like this. I wasn’t writing that much, mostly because writing is kind of hard – especially when you’re just starting out and you’re worried about technical stuff, about the mechanics of writing. I suppose all aspiring writers spend more time wishing for stories to magically get written.

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I’m An Acquired Taste. Don’t Like Me? Acquire Some Taste.

I have lived most of my life by letting others tell me how much I was worth.

It’s not the most tragic thing that can happen, but it’s top five for sure.

Self love is tricky. It sounds simple. It sounds like an easy thing to do. It sounds as if there are a bunch of cliches that get shared around on social media.

It sounds as if it’s about working out, eating right, drinking water, and getting plenty of sleep.

In fact, self love is pretty much like this:

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The Heart That Doesn’t Bend Gets Broken

Last night, I was reading an article and stumbled upon an interesting statistic: the average woman kisses fifteen men during her life. I told my girlfriend that, and she asked me how many girls I had kissed.

To be honest, I’ve always thought it to be quite futile to count such things. Not that I find the pursuit of love to be trivial by any means. Quite the opposite. But what difference does it matter how many girls a man kisses? And if it does matter, why does it matter?

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What I Learned About Life By Being an Overnight Success

Think of a time when you felt broken beyond repair. When life dealt that punch you didn’t see coming, put you to your knees like a penitent, and made you reconsider everything you ever did or thought or said.

Come on, don’t pretend like you’re perfect. This stays between you and me. Remember the feeling of having reached rock bottom: the darkness, the frustration, the gnawing sense of having lost it all, never to be recovered. The longing after what could no longer be, what you could no longer be.

It made you want to change things, right?

Desperation makes for a hell of a motivator, doesn’t it?

Well… on 22nd of April 2012 I launched a blog. Nothing too fancy. After all, I was a poor, sick, and lonely Romanian kid trying to write his depression away in a foreign language.

But, somehow, after six or so months, I had reached over 20, 000 blog readers, was earning between $100 and $800 per day, and… I kind of screwed up. Big time.

And it took me so long to figure this out, that I’m just now, almost eight years later, writing about the behind the scenes of being an overnight success, and what that did to me.

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Do You Want to Be Successful? Do This One Thing

“Luck is a dividend of sweat. The more you sweat, the luckier you get.”Ray Kroc

If you’ve been following this blog for some time, you know that I am a big advocate of perseverance. This is how I define the grind, the hustle: to keep going in spite numerous obstacles, despite all the other people who are more talented, better connected, or have more time.

To grind means to want it more than just about anyone else.

How bad do you want it?

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Imagine

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It is said we spend about 30% of the time daydreaming. It is said we fall asleep imagining perfect scenarios…some times we sleep with them inside our heads too.

Tonight I’m going to tell you how imagination can help you get everything you ever wanted.

Imagine your dream. Your big desire. That impossible thing that you ask of the Universe. What you want most.

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The Secret to An Extraordinary Life

Three months ago, I packed everything I owned into my girlfriend’s car and left my hometown of Constanta, Romania for a lot of unknown possibilities in the capital of Romania.

Don’t tell her that, but I was kind of scared to death.

You see, just like most other folks, when you’ve been doing something in a certain way all your life, it’s almost impossible to decide on a new way of doing it.

But I had to decide. She had gotten a new job, a much better job, and I couldn’t tell her not to take advantage of such an opportunity because I didn’t feel like stepping outside my comfort zone.

Now, the thing is that opportunities don’t look like an incredibly easy and fast way to achieve something.

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It’s Perfectly Fine to Waste Your Twenties

Photo by Laura Chouette on Unsplash

In 2012 I kind of became online famous. It was the year when I released my first book, got my first twenty thousand readers, and fell in love with a beautiful and talented artist.

I knew what I wanted to do, why I wanted to do it, and how to do it.

There was nothing quite like it. Clarity of purpose, financial purpose, love, the admiration and respect of countless strangers from around the world.

Then I lost it all. March 2014. Worst month of my life.

Struggled with some health issues. My grandfather died. My girlfriend left me.

After that, I’d break down repeatedly from time to time. It was difficult to focus. People don’t often talk about that; how difficult it is to focus when you are depressed or grieving or feeling lost in ways you cannot define or analyze.

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Dark Night of The Soul

“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.”

Laurell K. Hamilton

How much pain can a man endure? How much suffering? How much hunger? How much loneliness? How many disappointments, setbacks, disasters, heartbreaks?

How many tears a man can shed before he can’t cry anymore?

How many times he has to be told no until he believes it?

And the answer is simple.

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96 Lessons I Learned After 8 Years of Blogging

Today, I’m celebrating eight years of blogging.

Eight years.

In case you missed the previous post (and the free download with my best blog posts, you can find it here.)

Anyway. I want to share with you the lessons I’ve learned during my blogging journey. One for each month I spent blogging.

And, yeah, that’s me in the picture.

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